Mother's Day - What Our Moms Will Never Tell Us.
When was the last time you checked in on your mom? Last week, month, year? Not just talking to her, but REALLY checking in on her, asking how she is doing, not just unloading how crappy your week has been on her. Our moms don’t tell us everything that goes on behind the scenes, yet they spend every second making sure we are ok. Mother’s Day is one day out of the year where their children shift their focus off of themselves and into mom. Do we know how much it means to them?
By Sage Fernandez
What is Mother’s Day?
Mother’s Day is celebrated globally every second Sunday in May. The Holiday is meant to acknowledge all the mothers around the world who sacrifice an immeasurable amount of time, energy, and themselves for their children. The day is dedicated to honoring moms and finally giving them the recognition that they deserve, but will never ask for. Typically, family members will shower their mom with gifts, flowers, cards, and a whole lot of love. But, when the day is over Mom is right back to being the sounding board for all of her kid’s tribulations.
Source: dfwchild.com
What is Motherhood?
The dictionary defines a mother as taking on the responsibility to “bring up a child with care and affection”. Whether a woman physically gives birth to her child or not, as long as they both take the initiative to love, care, and protect a child, she is a mom. There is a difference between Mother and Mom. A child may grow up having an absent mother who neglects them and calls them names, but they find someone along the way that enters the role of mom. Moms make you feel safe, loved, worthy, and will drop everything to take care of you. Being a Mom is a choice, not an obligation, and maternal instinct (whether activated by giving birth or otherwise) balances that.
Source: memoryartgirl.com, Brainzmagazine.com
Mother’s Day Looks A Little Different.
Wendy Sefcik wrote a touching article for grieving mothers. After she lost her son T.J., celebrating Mother’s Day brought her great pain and heartache. She didn’t understand how she could possibly “celebrate” without her child being on this earth. However, with time, she slowly realized that so much in life is based on one’syour perspective. So, she transformed hers. She now looks at Mother’s Day with gratitude rather than grievance. She wants to share with her readers that anyone can “mother”, anyone can share their love and give it to someone who is in desperate need of mothering, love is limitless.
Source: erikaslighthouse.org
Taken For Granted.
When you’re a child, you don’t understand all the hoops your mom must jump through in a day. Moms sometimes have two full time jobs:, a their career that puts food on the table (where they are probably overworked and underpaid) and taking care of you. This doesn’t leave much time for themselves to regroup and have some alone time, being that they are always at our beck and call. This can lead to some mothers developing Depleted Mother Syndrome, where their mental and physical health is affected due to their demands being increased and resources quickly decreasing. Our moms are not immune to negative self image or a few bad days., getting put under a microscope does not help the feeling of never being good enough. Although our moms are our superheroes, even superheroes have sidekicks to help them face the toughest tasks.
Source: Counselingbc.com
Through the Eyes of a Mother?
Linda Olsen shared her wise words of becoming a mother. A colleague had told her just before she gave birth that, “You never knew you could love someone so much, until they were born,”. She didn’t fully grasp the statement until a few weeks later when she had first become a mother. She was overcome with the unconditional love that every parent tells about. Even when life gets hectic and in the way of raising small children, the feeling remains. Little moments are big reminders of the gift of parenthood, things as simple as checking in on your sleeping child, or picking up your teenager who locked their keys in the car.
Source: globalnews.ca
A Change in Perspective.
The stereotypical moody teenager who goes through that “I hate you” phase can be one of motherhood’s most dreaded periods. Where hormones kick in and teens are adjusting to their new chapter of life while also trying to fit in. This added stress can turn kids against their mothers, but this can be avoided if they shift their focus away from thinking mom is out to get them and rather mom is trying to protect them. Teens can be more understanding of their moms if they put themselves in her shoes and realize that they were once the same age and know how scary these changes can be. Moms just want what is best for their children, teens can show gratitude and appreciation for this to help improve the relationship during that trying time.
Source: psychcentral.com
“I saw the video that said “Be nice to your mom, it’s her first time living life too” and now I can’t forget it.”
– @dailymotivation1206 on TikTok
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